Who can think of the famous Roy Orbison song ‘Only the Lonely’ without humming it?
‘Only the lonely, Know the way I feel tonight, Only the lonely, Know this feeling ain’t right’.
For some single people, working in the male dominated construction sector can be a lonely experience. Shocking statistics reveal that male workers in construction have a suicide risk that is three times higher than the average and even those in skilled construction jobs also have an increased suicide risk.
Problems or loneliness amongst workers in the construction sector is often due to the innate characteristics of the industry; it is a highly mobile industry with lots of casual workers, uncertain contracts, exacting timelines and is quite macho in culture. Often people don’t feel comfortable in raising personal issues and then muddle along until they can cope no longer.
Men tend not to talk about their feelings as much as females nor do they have the same opportunities or desire for social outings. Even though people may be surrounded by others in their workplace, many can still have feelings of loneliness and isolation which in some cases can lead to depression.
Adulthood can be a time of stability and brings the joys of discovering new relationships, including building a family. However, it is also a time when key risks for loneliness and isolation can significantly impact on us, including being single, relationship breakdowns and divorce, poor work-life balance, children leaving the family home, retirement, and bereavement
Loneliness and isolation remain the key predictors for poor psychological and physical health. On the other hand, extensive evidence shows that having good-quality positive relationships can give us purpose and a sense of belonging, and help us to live longer and happier lives with fewer mental health problems. But with working in a male orientated environment where does one get the opportunity to meet a female partner?
Claire Hughes from Northern Ireland’s Award-Winning Matchmaking Agency Soirée Society explained:
“Finding someone who is also interested in a genuine relationship can be challenging for several reasons, e.g. where does one go to find them? Sometimes single people do not have other unattached people to go out with as their friends and family are already in relationships. Divorced and bereaved people in particular may be daunted by re-entering the dating scene which has changed dramatically over the years.”
Thanks to technology, there’s a wealth of online dating sites available but many people feel outside their comfort zones or are disillusioned with the results as they find that some people online are time wasters or are more interested in one night stands and casual relationships. Also, as has happened recently in Northern Ireland, people are not authenticated on online dating sites and fraudsters have stolen large amounts of money from unsuspecting victims in what has become known as romance scams.
“Turning to the professionals might be a solution for many people” said Claire.
Extensive research shows us that finding a compatible partner in Northern Ireland is a common problem for unattached people of all ages from 30-80. Matchmaking dating agencies work with you to offer a professional, personal and confidential service to find you the partner you seek, whether that be for a long term relationship, marriage or even just companionship..
With two weddings and two engagements in 2018, a further two engagements to date in 2019 and many long term relationships going strong, Soirée Society has helped people find the solution to their problem.
Not everyone is single, but everyone knows someone that is who would love to be in a relationship – perhaps a family member, or a friend or work colleague, or even your Ex! As Roy Orbison’s song goes – Maybe tomorrow, A new romance, No more sorrow, But that’s the chance
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To connect with others, connect with Soirée. Complete the contact form on the website https://www.soireesocietyni.co.uk/contact or telephone or text your name to
Rhoda on 07814079514 or Claire on 07766330087.
Soirée Society is pleased to offer a £50 discount to the first five applicants for membership received. Male applications are particularly welcome at this time.